No woman wants to hear her husband or boyfriend tells her she has got fat and is not as attractive as she used to be — unless of course, she is from a culture that tells women that if you are skinny it means you are unhealthy, so the fatter you get the healthier you are (yes it does exist!).
Everyone’s idea of being attractive is different. Some men are attracted to fat or plumper women, while others are attracted to skinnier women. The fact is that you have some slim women who are to die for, and you have some fat women who are drop-dead gorgeous! So it depends on your preference as an individual.
If you are one of those who like your women on the slender side but notice that your girlfriend or wife has been putting on some extra weight and losing those curves that you have been attracted to, then it’s time to point this out to her. The only problem is coming out directly and telling her ‘honey, you are getting fat. I think you should lose some weight’ will not cut it. In fact, that is prone to lead to damaging her self esteem and even making her angry. Both of which you want to avoid. So how do you get your wife or girlfriend to lose weight?
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How To Get Your Wife Or Girlfriend to Lose Weight Without a Fuss
If you outrightly tell your partner she needs to lose weight, to her you are saying she is not attractive to you anymore and if she wants to be then she has to make changes to the way she looks. It is saying you are not satisfied with her anymore. It is saying she is no longer your idea of the type of woman you want to be with. Then when she sees you with some slim, shapely female she may even question your motive for talking to them. I know how it works — I’m a woman!
Here are some scenarios that you can choose from to guide you on how to get her to lose those unwelcome pounds without a fuss.
Ways To Get Your Wife Or Girlfriend To Lose Weight
Scenario #1
Be casual and matter of fact when you mention her added weight.
Grab some old photos while you two are causally sitting down one day. Go over the things you liked about the pictures and joke about how you both looked then. Casually mentioned how hot she looked in that outfit. Then tell her she looks great now but you noticed that she added on a few pounds. Ask if she still has that dress (from the photo) and joke about if she feels she could still rock it! She may say yes. Challenge her to try it on in a joking way. She may just take you up on your challenge. If she does try it on, then chances are she may not fit in it the same as then. Use this to point out that if she should shed those extra pounds that she can rock it all over again. If she admits that she has the dress but thinks she has gained some weight and would not fit into it, then again, encourage her to lose the weight and see if she can fit into it in say two months’ time.
NB. No matter how much weight she may have added always refer to it as ‘a few pounds’. This she will accept. Don’t ever use ‘You put on a lot of weight’ — unless you are looking to sleep in the dog house!
Be Casual and Relaxed When You Mention Her Weight
Scenario # 2
Invite her to the gym
Whether you are the gym type or not, this will be a good time for you to start. One of the easiest ways to get your wife or girlfriend to lose weight and feel good about it is if she feels she is supporting you. If you tell her she needs to start going to the gym because she is fat, then it will not only be a burden to her but will also affect her image of herself. But if she feels she is supporting you, then she will do it gladly. Therefore, tell her you want to start going to the gym but want her support. Tell her that if you go together she will motivate you. Indirectly you will be motivating her without her even realizing this. Start out once or twice a week and then begin to fit the gym into her schedule. Before you know it she will be enjoying her gym runs. If you are not able to go to the gym, either because of COVID-19 or because she refuses, encourage her to exercise with you at home. Youtube has some really good exercise workout programs that she will be sure to benefit from. Example https://www.youtube.com/watch?with/LeslieSansone.
Encourage Her By Inviting Her to Work Out With You
There are a number of really good walk-at-home exercise videos that are offered that you can choose from. Or change them up to avoid them becoming mundane. Guaranteed you will both feel good about yourselves at the end of it. However, since the aim is for her to lose weight you will now need to take it a step further by changing the diet. Again, make it about you, tell her you want to maintain a healthy lifestyle and so you want to cut some things from your diet. start with a few things at first then move into other foods. You can do some research to see what food causes fat and what is healthy to consume. Two of the first to target getting out of both your diet are fry foods and sweets. Cut back on these as best as possible. Thus exercise and a healthier diet are sure to give you results.
NB. Make sure that you compliment her efforts and compliment her body the moment you start seeing some changes. This will motivate her to go even more.
Invite Her To The Gym With You
Scenario # 3
Go for walks together and change your diet
While she may not be prone to going to the gym or maybe even exercising at home, you can try inviting her out for walks on a regular basis. Brisk walks will achieve a similar goal to exercise. However, if you wish for her to lose weight it is recommended that four or five times a week for a duration of approximately 30 minutes each time will produce results. Walking is a good way to make her start feeling good about being active. After a while, you can even encourage her to do 10 minutes of abdominal exercises after each walk. This will target her stomach area which the walking may not do. This is especially good if she has added some weight around her waist and her abdomen.
Again, this will require a change in diet. It will be pointless to be walking and burning off the calories only to put them back on through your diet. So encourage a change in diet.
If she likes biking, then by all means go for rides around the community instead. This is just as good a way to lose some weight. As long as you do it together she will be motivated. Every woman likes to know she is doing things with her man — yours is no different.
N.B After a while she will enjoy walking or biking so much that she will want to go even when you are unable to. It may not even seem like exercise to her anymore. Remember, Compliment her efforts and her progress.
Go For Walks Together In An Effort To Get Her To Lose Weight
Scenario # 4
Make it a playful competition
You may have a better result in getting her to lose weight if you make it a competition between the both of you. Approach her casually, tell her that you think you have both put on some ‘contentment fat’. This is because you are both so happy and content with each other that you have become so relaxed that you have started to put weight on without even realizing it. This should make her chuckle. The fact is that she may not even have realized the fat, or may not have given it a second thought. However, now that you brought it up she will stop to think and look at herself. Tell her that you have this brilliant idea — how about if you see who can lose… say five pounds … in the next two weeks — or whatever works for you both. Then at the end of the period, the loser has to give the winner… say a $100 gift card, or a one-week break free from cooking, etc… you can decide what the prize should be based on both your liking.
N.B Do not make it a big deal if you do not see her exercising etc. Ask if she is still in the running for the prize and make her see you literally working out. Seeing you working so hard to win will put her in a competitive mood and she will be encouraged to not only lose the weight but to go the extra mile doing so.
Make Losing Weight A Playful Competition
Dos and Don’ts to guide you on how to get her to lose weight
- Ensure that you have a loving tone when you mention anything to do with her gaining weight. And whatever you do, DO NOT tell her that she has got fat! There is nothing a woman hates to hear more than that — even if she is fat! As mentioned above use the words ‘put on a few pounds’. This will not let her feel hopeless and will keep you in her good graces.
- Women resist being told they need to lose weight as this lowers their self-esteem. Thus the importance of not sounding judgmental or accusing when you approach the topic. Unfortunately, you may sound kind and loving but the words may rub her the wrong way. So both your tone and your words need to be right. (Don’t worry — you got this!)
- Don’t expect too much too soon from her. Remember that it took time for her to have gained weight and so it will also take time for her to lose it. Therefore patience is the order of the day.
Losing Weight Requires Both Exercise And Diet
- Be very supportive of her efforts. This will definitely be evident if you are exercising along with her.
- Remember that losing weight requires both exercise and diet. Ensure you help her to do both. Be playful in your reminders if she is heading for those irresistible fast food Fries instead of carrot sticks. But on the other hand, she does deserve to treat herself to what she wants every now and then.
- Keep it nice and fun. Don’t make losing weight become a threat over her head. And yes, you may not say it directly but you can elude to it. Example. “I like my women slim. You have become too fat.” What will she hear? “I like my women slim, you are no longer my type.” Subconsciously this will make her insecure. So be careful what you say.
