It is a well-known saying that a happy wife makes a happy life. Thus smart husbands know that in order to have a happy and peaceful life they should ensure that they first keep their wives happy.
But — what makes a husband happy? I’m sure a happy husband makes for something! hmmm… never thought of that before. Well, I’m sure that if a husband is happy he will make his wife happy so maybe it all begins there. So what does it take to make a husband happy? Or better yet, what should a husband expect from his wife?
Being married and sharing your life with someone can be challenging indeed. But once both persons are playing their part, and doing it effectively then things will definitely not feel burdensome for one or both. And ultimately both will be happy.
Couples Should Endeavor To Make Each Other Happy
What Should You Expect From Your Wife?
Below we turn to some men themselves for answers. What Do you expect from your wife? This was their response.
1. Anthony Brown, married 8 years (Canada)
“Loyalty, love, and affection. Always having my back no matter what. I expect respect. A lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets. Doesn’t belch out loud. Looking lit all the time for her man and always supporting her man in whatever he does. And last but not least, never put him down or shuts him down when he talks about his dreams and goals or simple stuff. She should also be a good listener.”
2. Patrick Hall, married 2 years (Canada)
Loving, Caring, Loyal, Homely… being the Ministeress of Home Affairs (MoHA). Those are the things I am getting from my wife. And those are my lifelong expectations.
3. Richard Lord, engaged (Trinidad)
“Faithful love. That is everything. That is not just sex. Faithful love is complete — it includes trust, caring, support, etc. So it is everything.”
Wives Should Be The ‘Ministeress Of Home Affairs’ (MoHA)
4. Mark Miller, In a steady relationship (Jamaica)
“To love, respect, and support me as best as she can… support is both physical and emotional, etc.”
5. Markus Anthony, married 20 years (Jamaica)
“I expect her to be a very good listener and realize that it is not always about her. She has to have compassion. I love it when she is compassionate towards me. And if something is wrong with me I expect her to be there.”
6. David Lloyd, in a steady relationship (Cayman Island)
“Comfort. Most of all encouragement when I feel like giving up. Support in good and bad times. A freak between the sheets and a lady in the streets, my vaccine against stress.”
7. Ken Yinka, married 18 years (Nigeria)
“What I expect from my wife is support, understanding, and care. And most importantly I expect my wife not to fight me over the mistake I made in her dream while she’s sleeping!”
Men Want Their Wives to Be Good Listeners
What Men Expect from You
As seen above, just about all the men interviewed has somethings in common that they expect from their wives. To break it all down:
Loyalty
Loyalty in a marriage is very important. This simply means a strong feeling of support or complete commitment or allegiance to your husband. It means you will put no one above the person you are committed to and support him through the ups and downs. It is this feeling of loyalty that will prevent infidelity in a marriage. So no matter what someone else offers outside of the marriage, or the promises of betterment given, loyalty will keep you grounded in the marriage. This is what men want — for their wives to be faithful and loyal no matter who or what comes along. To be loyal to them despite their imperfections and failures at times makes for a happy husband.
Husbands Want Their Wives To Be Loyal
Love
Some men above noted that they expect love from their wives. An essential ingredient in a marriage. Many persons experience love differently, and to many, love has a different meaning. But ultimately love is an intense feeling of deep affection. In a marriage, it is a deep romantic attachment to your spouse. Love is what propellers one to go over and above for their spouse even in challenging times. In fact, it is love that allows one to forgive the sins of the other person, and love that causes endurance. Notwithstanding, if both person shares love then they will both endeavor to please the other. This will result in a happy marriage as each will take the other person’s feelings into consideration. Thus love is the glue that holds it all together.
Husbands Want Their Wives to Love Them
Respect
Respect is another vital ingredient in a marriage. In fact, many men have expressed that for them having the respect of their wives is more important than even love. They would rather feel appreciated, recognized, and admired for the role they play as a spouse than doing the best they can and having it shoved back in their faces. Men love to have their egos boosted, so respecting them is a way of doing that while also letting them know that they are in charge. A number of men would in fact chose to have their wives respect them rather than love them.
Husbands Want Their Wives to Respect Them
Good communication
Good communication is very important in a relationship. Like one man pointed out, he wants his wife to be a very good listener. Therefore, communication is not only about expressing how you feel and what you are going through but also listening to what your partner is saying and show ultimate interest. Not just listening because you know it’s your duty but listening with empathy and heart. Listening with compassion. Men sometimes want to forget about being the provider and the head of the household and just be pampered and told how their wives appreciate them. Sometimes they want to hear all the things a woman wants to hear. They want to know that they can communicate their deepest feelings with their partner and just be vulnerable without having it used against them. Thus with good communication comes trust.
Husbands Want Their Wives to Be Good Communicators
Attention/Affection
A number of men love to touch and be touched, just like a number of women do. Touch is a secret communication of your feelings and emotions. So making time to spend with your husband to show your affection is important. Affection is not sex. Affection is a physical expression of your liking or fondness towards them. This can come out in the way you hold their hands in public, how you cuddle up to them while watching a movie. A kiss to say ‘have a great day’ or to say ‘welcome home’, or rubbing his head resting in your lap while he lays on the couch on his iPad. Making the time to give him your attention while expressing your affection makes him feel special and appreciated. Something just about all men want.
Husbands Want Attention And Affection From Their Wives
Being Supportive
Men want their wives to be supportive of their dreams and goals as some of the men above also noted. They want to know that they have someone — their wife — in their cheerleading corner providing encouragement or emotional help. They want to know that you are there to cheer them on especially when it gets hard for them at times and when they feel they may not be able to do it. Your support is what could make the difference in them continuing on. Men want to know that what they are doing is not in vain and that you trust and believe in their efforts.
Husbands Want Their Wives To Support Them
‘A freak between the sheets, and a lady in the streets’
Not sure where this slang came from, but it seems to have been around since the ’80s and is a line in a few songs. But no matter where it originated it seem a number of men have honed it and requires that their wives be just that — a freak between the sheets and a lady on the streets. What does that mean? It means he wants a woman who dresses to kill on the streets, all prim, proper, and polished, and behaves like a true lady in every way, but then when it comes to the bedroom she breaks loose and fulfills his wildest fantasies. From the comments from two of the men above this is something they expect from their wives. I suspect many more men share this notion.
Husbands Want Their Wives To Satisfy Them Sexually
‘Ministeress’ of Home Affairs (MoHA)
This is an awesome term to use to describe the role wives are expected to play. So while you have ministers sitting in government over the affairs of the nation, at home, men like Patrick, believe their wives should be ‘ministeress of home affairs’. So as MoHA, you will see to the everyday running of the home to include, the organization, the meals, the cleaning, the finances, etc. And while you may not require a degree to fill this position, it is a position that is definitely required of you and the more you get to know your husband and settle in as a wife the more you will learn your role as a MoHA and be able to carry it out effectively.
Understanding and Care
Men require their wives to be understanding of their needs, their feelings, and their efforts. They want to know that you get them and what they are about. Not all men are emotional. Some will solve problems quite logically even though the wife may be trying to work it out based on her emotions. This is why communication is so important. It helps you to understand each other and helps the wife to be able to cipher out who her husband is and how to treat him in different situations. Remember, men do not always say what they are feeling, but you have to study your man enough and spend time communicating with him to the point where you will understand his silent messages. Understanding him will help you to better care for his needs — even when he is not asking out loud.
Husbands Want Their Wives To Be Understanding and Caring
Be proud of him/ show him off
A husband wants to hear his wife boosts about him to her friends and family. This boosts his self-esteem and makes him want to go that extra mile. Being proud of your husband tells him that you not only recognize the wonderful work he is doing but that you appreciate it. Men, like women like compliments. Compliment his efforts. Let him know the good job that he is doing taking care of you and the family. Compliment the way he looks. Compliment the unexpected things he does for you. Talk positively about him to your friends and family while he is around and glance at his expression. You will not miss that boastful smile that he will be trying hard to hide.
Accept him for who he is
As a wife, your partner expects that you married him for who he is and not who you want him to be. He will assume that you know him inside and out and has accepted the good and the bad, the perfect and the imperfect sides of him. Do not try to change him. If you do he will never be able to be his true self around you and that can only lead to unhappiness on both sides. Not only will he not be comfortable being himself around you but he may (sometimes even subconsciously) try to find someone he can be himself around. And we all know how that usually ends. Of course one of the ways to show that you have accepted him for who he is, is by accepting that you are two different beings coming together for one cause. Ignore the little things that do not affect world hunger — like leaving the toilet seat up, or passing wind out loud, or wearing the same underpants two days straight — that’s a thing right? isn’t it? well… you get the general idea. He wants you to accept him for who he is.
