The amount of times couples have sex does not equate to how much he loves you, nor does it speak to the fact that he is cheating. Early stages of relationships are based more on physical attraction, which means new couples will have sex more often. However, as time goes on that changes to more emotional attraction than physical. If you are not satisfied with the frequency in which you are having sex discuss this with your partner. But be assured, having sex less does not mean he is cheating.

It is hard to have an organism and not know it! Orgasm itself begins with strong vaginal muscle contractions. These can each range anywhere between four to 15 seconds and tend to occur at intervals of 0.8 seconds. Muscles may keep contracting, while blood pressure, heart rate and respiratory rate continues to rise. Rhythmic muscle contractions occur in the outer third of the vagina, the uterus and anus. The first muscle contractions are the most intense and occur at a rate of about one per second. As the orgasm continues, the contractions become less intense and occur at longer intervals. Other body muscles may also contract during orgasm and not just those in the pelvic area. Some women may even emit or spray fluid from their urethra during orgasm. This is referred to as female ejaculation. During an intense orgasm, the entire body may become momentarily rigid and you may experience anywhere between 10 to 15 contractions. A mild orgasm may have three to five contractions.

The woman’s most fertile period is two to three days before and after she ovulates. Women generally ovulate 14 days before the START of her next period. If she has a 28-day cycle, this equates to day 14 after the START of her period. If she has a 21-day cycle, this equates to day seven.

A fairly simple formula for the approximate date of release of the egg is (ovulation=cycle length – 14).

Because this is an approximation as well as the fact that sperm and eggs remain functional for several hours after release, having sex every other day for the three to four days before or after the expected date of ovulation will enhance your chances of pregnancy.

Another way to track your fertility state is by monitoring your cervical mucus. As you approach your most fertile period, the cervical mucous in your vagina changes in consistency and texture. Most women find they produce more cervical mucous that is clear, slippery or stretchy. This is a sign that your cervical mucous is fertile thus making it capable of supporting sperm for several days to help promote conception. Fertile cervical mucous enhances your chances of conceiving successfully.

According to a number of men interviewed, they love to have their women talk dirty during sex – just not too much. In fact, some men say while they like their partner speaking dirty and making erotic sounds they do not like when it is overdone. In other word no curse words and nothing disgusting. However, they do want to hear you talk and let them know just how their gymnastic moves are making you feel and how you want them to pleasure you. The words spoken during lovemaking can be controlled and sex can still be very exciting without the dirty talk.

However, sex talk increases the level of anxiety, which in turn increases the gratification, but too much dirty talk can get you out of control. It is believed that sex is an indication of who you truly are, so how you do it determines the real you.

A relationship is the process of engaging one mind with or against another mind. All relationships begin and exist in the mind. Marriage is in the mind, parenting and all other relational activities are in the mind. Therefore, for a relationship to be lasting and healthy, it must be anchored in a healthy state of mind of the parties engaged in the relationship. Some keys to focus on is having a sweet, childlike friendship; honesty; open communication of words and feelings; and sincere commitment and loyalty. Spouses need to share just about everything unreservedly and uninhibitedly with each other.

Forgiveness is always the healthiest way to deal with transgressions against you. When you forgive, you are the first beneficiary, because your mind finds rest and calm from the situation that has caused you pain and hurt. That said, it does not mean that you are condoning your husband’s behavior. Nor should you continue to allow your body to be used by him at his convenience. Keep your values and sense of self-esteem. Maintain your position that it is you alone or not at all. It is a choice he must make and where you can help him to remedy it, do so for the mutual interest of the marriage.

The fact that your husband does not find you sexy anymore does not automatically say that something is wrong with you. It could be the result of his straying mind or even the possibility of him having become unfaithful. However, be sure that you are not knowingly or unknowingly turning him off. Create an atmosphere for simple dialogue, talk through the challenges together. Listen to him explain what his issues are. If you have concerns about him, put them on the table as well. Remember, too, that men are sexually motivated by what they see and feel, and if for any reason you might not be attentive to your personal, physical well-being and attractiveness, that could hold a part of the answer to your dilemma.

I am going to assume that you mean professional counseling by a trained competent marriage counselor/therapist. I am also assuming that you both have been, and are still mutually desirous of saving the marriage, because if it is not the case, and one desires it, and the other doesn’t, then it is hardly likely that anything positive will be accomplished even with the most competent counselor. You ought to have individual sessions as well as the couples’ sessions. Proper diagnosis of the issues impacting the marriage ought to have been done and assessments backed up with exercises prescribed as therapy to be part of the treatment package.