Just about everyone within the dating age has an ex in their past – if not, then chances are you will! Simply because no one is perfect and the first time you fall in love doesn’t necessarily mean it will be the last. Sometimes we make good choices, sometimes we don’t. Sometimes someone is compatible with us and sometimes they are not. That’s the reality!
Sometimes, however, someone may break up prematurely only to realize they cannot live without you. In fact, sometimes you want nothing more than for them to want you back, but the fear of rejection prevents you from making that bold move. But what if your ex is just pretending to be over you? How can you tell? Knowing that they are still in love with you and cannot get over you would be a good time to make the move to get them back – if this is what you truly want.
Here are 22 signs your ex is just pretending to be over you:
#1. He no longer shuts you out but has reopened the lines of communication: So, you decided to call it a day – for whatever reason. And you both decided it would be too painful to remain friends. You even saw him out with friends having a good time and he never even acknowledged your presence. Then suddenly, when you thought all hope was lost, he starts reaching out and texting you every chance he gets. Not only does he want to know how you are doing on a regular basis but if you have eaten, if you are sleeping well, if you cleaned the fish tank or walked the dog, etc. – this is a sure sign he’s not over you as he pretended to be at first.
#2. He’s asking your friends and family about you: So, it’s been a few months and he has been texting and calling your phone. However, you decided it best not to respond. Instead, he has taken another route by texting, calling, and seeking out your friends and family to inquire about you and if you have moved on and just what you have been doing with your life these days.
#3. You are always running into him: You know your ex has a new fling because they have been seen out together quite often. Which means he should be over you right? Wrong! Not when each time you go somewhere he is there because he knew you would show up. He knew your schedule prior to breaking up and now he is there seemingly by accident, but after the first 3 ‘accidental encounters’ you begin to realize it could not be by chance. He joined the gym and works out the same time you are there – even though when you were together you could not get him to accompany you even once! He happens to be passing by your work just the time you walk out the door for the day, he happens to be at your Friday evening hang out spot even though that is where you hang with your girls. And to top it all off whenever he ‘bumps’ into you he sticks to you like glue!
#4. He would do anything for you, despite having a new ladylove: Having a new girlfriend should be a clear indication that he has moved on. Yet, he will drop anything he is doing to be by your side if you ask him to, or if he hears that you need help – remember that time your car could not start in the parking lot and your girlfriend decided to text him? He showed up in rocket time! or that time you had no ride to go to the grocery store? or that time you needed to pick up a parcel from the post office? Not only that, but he made it clear that you should not be afraid to call upon him any hour of the night or day. Having a new girlfriend is obviously a pretense to be over you.
#5 His new doxy broke up with him: His new girlfriend that he replaced you with broke up with him months into their relationship because she was tired of being compared to you. When he got with her, you were crushed because you felt you couldn’t have meant that much to him for him to have replaced you so soon after. He seemed to have been happy with her – holding hands when you were around, laughing, and exchanging light kisses in public – then you found out they broke up and the reason behind it. No doubt your ex was in a rebound relationship and was merely pretending to be over you. See Is Your Ex In a Rebound Relationship? Learn the Truth Today!
#6: His new girlfriend looks and dresses like you: While this may seem insulting at first, it should actually be a compliment to you. He obviously went out of his way to handpick someone who looks and dresses like you, an obvious sign you are still on his mind and in his heart. Dating your look-alike is a desperate cry that he wants you in his life. So, while getting involved with someone else may be a statement that he has moved on, the fact that someone could pass as your twin means he’s far from over you! He is simply pretending. And of course, she is not you so that union stands zero percent chance of lasting very long. In the long run – she isn’t you!
#7. It’s in the way he looks at you: For whatever reason, you have to bump into him from time to time. Whenever you do you can feel him undressing you with his eyes. When you turn around the smile he gives is to die for, then comes that long stare that neither of you can pull away from. You already knew that you were not over him – now you know he too is not over you.
#8. He cannot shut up about you: Your friends have told you that they ran into your ex a number of times and he just kept going on and on about you. Talking about things you used to do and how you used to do them; places you would go and jokes that only the two of you shared. This shows he is not over you or he would not be conversing with your friends in the first place but would do the pleasantries and move on. Then to talk nonstop about you is definitely a sign he is nowhere near over you.
#9. He tells everyone it’s only a matter of time before you two get back together: It’s been a few years and you have moved on with your life. You even started dated again. Nonetheless, your ex makes it clear that they will not get involved with anyone because they know for sure you two are destined to be together. In fact, he thinks you are only using your new-found love to get back at him but that he doesn’t let it bother him as he is more than willing to wait for you.
#10. He picked up drinking alcohol after the break up: He never liked alcohol and even frown upon those who did. Now you have heard countless stories of him getting drunk and having wild chatter about you. In fact, he turned up at your home drunk – twice! Begging for you to take him back and apologizing for the relationship having gone wrong. Yet when you bump into him outside of his drunken state he is quick to inform you that he is doing well and that is life could not be better. An obvious sign he is pretending to be over you!
# 11. He refuses to be just friends: It has been almost 2 years, you have just about moved on with your life. He said he has too and even seemed to be going through a normal routine. The only thing is, he cannot bring himself to even say hello when he passes you in the mall, moreover to be friends with you. The truth is that every time he sees you it hurt, and he cannot bring himself to open up himself to that pain. Not being friends after so long is his way of protecting himself.
#12. He spreads rumors about you: As weird as it may seem, some people lash out in a negative way to cover up their true feelings. Your ex may be going around telling all who will listen what an awful person you are and making up colorful stories to back up his conspiracy. As hurtful as this may be, he is only doing it because he is still so caught up with you that he doesn’t know what to do with himself.
#13. He texts out of nowhere to say he is missing you: You have been over for months, yet out the blues, you receive a text message saying how much he misses you and that he would do anything to get back with you. Chances are he is still going through his grief process and is at the bargaining stage. See How To Move On From An Ex – Get the Facts! This is a sure sign he is still struggling to get past you. No matter how reserve or nonchalant he may seem when you run into him.
#14. His Facebook status has not changed from ‘in a relationship’ to single. It has been over a year and though he is a frequent browser of social media and keeps up to date with postings, he has not changed his status from ‘in a relationship’ to ‘single’. This is an indication that he is not ready to admit to the world that you two are no longer together. Thus, he has not moved on.
#15. He never misses your birthday or any special occasion in your life: You are no longer together, but this does not stop him from sending you your birthday gifts, Valentine’s gifts, and even gifts marking the day you met. And if no one else remembers your special occasions you can be sure he will be there to give you a call or send you a message! If he had moved on these occasions would no longer have special meaning to him and he would be doing these for someone else who has replaced you.
#16. He still considers himself a part of your family: If persons were not told they would not know that you two were no longer together as he still visits your family, still take your mother to her doctor’s appointments, picks up your little sister from school and shows up at every barbecue and Christmas gathering your family has. Even after being advised he didn’t have to do this; he insisted it is not an issue. Obviously, he still considers himself a part of your family – thus a part of you.
#17. He still calls wanting to come over: He still calls asking if he can come over to spend time with you, making sure to inform you that this is just as social friends as he has accepted the fact that you two are no longer together. This is another sure sign he is not over you and is just pretending things are on a platonic basis with him. Agreeing to this will give the impression you are reconsidering getting back with him. If that is not what you desire it is best not to encourage it.
#18. He admits he thinks about you all the time: Your ex informs you that he cannot stop thinking about you all these years and that no matter who he is with it doesn’t matter because he thinks about you all the time and that no one can compare to you because you are the best thing that ever happened to him. It is obvious all these years he has been pretending to be over you.
#19. He wants you to give him a second chance: Years after your breakup and a few relationships in between, your ex tells you he wants you to give him a second chance as he is still in love with you! Nothing says he’s not over you like admitting his love and asking for a second chance at it. Thus, he has been pretending all his time to have moved on. He even remembers the day you first met and the dress you were wearing then. He definitely has been thinking about you all this time.
#20. He is still single: It has been a while, and you have moved on. Yet your ex is stuck in a rut. Not only that but each time he sees you he is not afraid to inform you that he is not interested in anyone else.
#21. Your ex is trying to make you jealous: One way to get a reaction out of someone is to do something you feel will affect them. If your ex is going out of his way to make you jealous, showcasing is alleged new love on his arms in places he knows you will be, or taking the opportunity to bring up her name every chance he gets, then he is obviously trying to make you jealous. This is all in the hope that you will run back to him. If he has to go out of his way to make you jealous then he is obviously not over you. Otherwise, he would live his life without care of what you will or will not think.
#22. Your ex gets very defensive when questioned about you: If your ex gets very defensive when others question or tease him about you then chances are, he is trying to hide his true feelings and trying desperately to get his fake emotions across. If he was over you he would not be defensive but instead would hold regular conversations about you.
