If there are signs that your significant other is no longer into you, then there are usually reasons behind why he feels the way he does. Sometimes it is reasons having to do with a change of heart, or him finding someone else that appeals to him more, or that you may be doing wrong. As a result, we will take a look at reasons why he may no longer be into you and if the reasons point to you then you may want to do some self-evaluation and get your relationship back on the road again. After all, it’s not over until the fat lady sings!
Reasons He May No Longer Be Into You
1. He has found someone else who interests him more
Do not beat yourself up. Not every time someone walks out of your life or no longer shows any interest in you means it’s your fault or that you did something wrong. Sometimes it’s all about them! If you find that he has lost interest based on the signs mentioned in Signs He Is No Longer Into You — Telltale Signs!, then it could very well be that he has found someone else that he is now giving his full attention to. But do not dismay, if he was meant to be yours then he would be yours. If not, then it simply means he was not meant to be. Your Mr. Right will come your way. Just be patient.
2. He never wanted to be serious from the onset
Sometimes men just want a casual jolly ride. Nothing serious. While you on the other hand may have poured your heart and soul into the relationship. However, because they knew they did not want a serious relationship they will slowly take themself out of the picture the moment they realize that you are making plans for your future together. It is always good to have the discussion from the beginning as to what exactly they may be looking for in a relationship. When they tell you that they are not looking for something solid right now and just want to ‘see where it goes’, believe them. Do not enter into the relationship thinking you are that woman who will make them change their minds and settle down. If you tell yourself this you will find yourself giving more of yourself than you ought to without the relationship heading anywhere. You cannot change him. Accept what he says and decide if you are on mutual ground. This way you will not feel (too) hurt when he no longer shows interest in you.
3. He only wanted sex
Some men will find you sexually attractive but not the ‘settle down with’ type. If this is the case, he will be more than interested in having sex with you. However, sometimes this is all they want. Sex. Don’t be fooled by his charms. If he only comes around when he wants sex, or all his conversations leads right back to sex, then that is all he wants. If he shows no interest in you as a person, then again it’s all bout sex. Many times once he has had it — once, twice — maybe even three times if he enjoyed it enough — then he is gone! You have satisfied his curiosity and he will be moving on to the next available woman ready to satisfy his sexual appetite. Look for the signs and do not let yourself be blinded by what you want from him rather than what he wants from you.
4. You turn him off
While it is not always about you that causes him to lose interest, it could very well be. Maybe it’s in the way you push to live together while that is not what he wants. Or the way you talk about having kids when he already has two from another relationship and is not looking for more. Maybe it’s the way you smell. Scientists have found that a person’s smell is linked to memory, emotions, and interactions with other people, which encourages us to draw closer to that person or stay away. In fact, certain body odors are said to be connected to human sexual attraction. Humans can make use of body odor subconsciously to identify whether or not they want to be with someone. So who knows, maybe the way your smell turns him off!
5. You have nothing in common
It may simply be that he is no longer interested in you because you have nothing in common. He may enjoy the outdoors while you like to sit around watching Netflix all day every day. He may be a pagan while you believe that Jesus Christ is Lord, He may be into sports while you think its boring and a grand waste of time for anyone to spend their precious time watching. If you genuinely have nothing in common he may lose interest big time!
6. He wants more than you are willing to offer
He may have grown up in a home where family meant a lot to him. And so he wants a family complete with kids. You believe your career should be at a certain place before you can even consider settling down and having children. He may believe that being with you is all he wants while you think he is being too clingy and should give each other space to grow. As a result, he may lose interest as it seems he wants more than you are willing to offer.
7. You nag too much
Everything he does seem to rub you the wrong way. The way the chews, the way he talks and drags his words the way he dresses… and so you are always on his case about one thing or another. After a while, it will become too burdensome for him and this in itself will cause him to lose interest. Men need space to be themselves and to know that they are accepted and appreciated for who they are and the role they play.
8. He’s intimidated by you
Sometimes it may be that your man is intimidated by the fact that you have a better job that brings in more money, that you are more educated and have more to say on matters concerning the economic situation in the country. He may be intimidated even by the very way you speak to him ever so often that makes him feel you are condescending. It is therefore very important that no matter what his financial, educational, or emotional situation is, that you make him feel like the head of the household or the man in the relationship. Otherwise, he will lose interest and may turn in attention to someone who makes him feel that way.
9. He doesn’t like your values and principles
Seeing someone and being interested in them is one thing. After you get to know them is another. A number of people have lost interest in someone after they get to know them and realize that they share different values and principles and that there can be no compromise regarding these aspects of both your lives.
10. You are too hard on him
It may be that you show him up for who he really is. He may be someone who is irresponsible, who does not take account of his actions, who still acts like a child, or is not willing to provide for his home. If you continued to show him up he may overtime become withdrawn and lose interest in you. This is not necessarily a bad thing on your part as sometimes you do need to call a spade a spade irrespective of the consequences.
11. You were just a rebound
if he gets involved with you after a recent breakup from a relationship, then you may not be anything more than a rebound, see Is Your Ex In a Rebound Relationship? Learn the Truth Today! as a result, he may lose interest if he and his ex are getting back together, if you unknowingly helped him to get over his ex, or if you do not compare to his ex. All of those reasons mean you never stand a chance with him, to begin with. Therefore, do not beat yourself up if he suddenly loses interest.
12. His wife found out and he had to choose.
You got involved with him knowing full well he was married and that you were nothing more than the side chick — no matter what stories he told you about leaving his wife, or how much you felt you had what it takes to pull him away from her. In fact, his marriage means so much to him that the moment his wife finds out about his outside fling and gave him the ultimatum to either choose his marriage or chose you, he chose his marriage. In fact, he made every effort to cut you off completely and technically ‘lost interest’ in you almost immediately. No surprise there. Men can disassociate their emotions as easily as they can change their undershirts.
What To Do If He is No Longer Interested In You
If he is no longer interested in you based on the signs given in Signs He Is No Longer Into You — Telltale Signs!, then you need to identify why. The why could be after a self-analysis based on the reasons stated above. However, be honest with the reason(s) it could be and then you are faced with two options.
1. Talk to him about where you see the relationship going and why.
This can sometimes be effective especially if he hasn’t been deliberately turning away from you. Sometimes they are caught up in the everyday cares around them and may not even realize that they are not giving you the attention you need. Having a conversation can jolt them back to reality and back on track. However, if he has genuinely been losing interest the conversation may only get him upset to hear you put it into actual words and he will more than likely deny all your claims. In the end, however, it is better to have the conversation to confirm where you are heading from there. This will at least give you closure and hopefully a better understanding of what went wrong on your part, his part, or both so you can learn from it thereafter.
2. Decide that the relationship is not redeemable and is not worth it, move on.
Based on the level of his lack of interest, deciding that the relationship is not redeemable and is not work your tears will not be hard. You certainly do not need to be involved with someone who has moved on emotionally and who may even be showing interest in someone else while neglecting your needs and emotions. Sometimes we just need to cut our losses and move on to heal from there. Sometimes it doesn’t make sense trying to resurrect a relationship that from all indication has no promise of a future. One thing is for sure — you cannot force someone to be interested in you if they really aren’t.