Early Signs Your Relationship Will Last — Check It!

While there are early signs to tell that your relationship will not last, see Signs That Your Relationship Won’t Work, there are also signs to tell you that your relationship will last for as long as you both want it to. But while persons may be caught up in the thrill and excitement of a new relationship and often ignore or misread the signs that are before them, if you are looking for a long-term relationship you may want to pay attention to the signs below. After all, actions speak louder than words, because people can tell you what they think you want to hear, but their actions are what will tell the real story. So how do you know from early that your relationship will last?

Early Signs Your Relationship Will Last

 

1. You are seriously into each other

If you find that the more you spend time together, is the more you want to spend time, and the feeling is reciprocated, then your relationship is on the road to forever. Usually, new relationships do carry the thrill and the excitement of always thinking about the person and always wanting to be with them, but if after six months or so you are still feeling the same way or even stronger then it’s definitely a good sign. After sending months getting to know someone you either find yourself losing interest or not able to get enough of them. Which is why it is encouraged to spend time knowing someone before making big decisions about them.

 If You are Still Seriously into Each Other Months Down the Line Your Relationship Will Last

2. You don’t have to pretend to be someone else

One of the main ways to tell that your relationship will last is if you are comfortable being the real you and they are comfortable being their true self around you. If you find that you have to pretend to make them like you or think the best of you then your relationship will not last. Eventually the real you will come out and they may think you are nothing more than a pretender and wishes to stay away. Showing your true self from the onset is what will let your new babe know who you, let them fall in love with you for who you really are, and make them trust you.

3. You are supportive of each other

Having someone in your life who supports your dreams and encourages you to take that extra step in accomplishing your lifelong goal is great! If you find that the person you are with is genuinely supportive and lovingly pushes you to be your best self in accomplishing your what you want then you have a keeper! A definite sign that your relationship will last. On the contrary, if you are with a dream killer and destiny destroyer — run!

If You are supportive of each other your relationship will last

4. Sincere apologies are given

You know how you keep making dates but they never show and never bother to call to say sorry and explain why they didn’t show? While you are sitting home fuming as you wait for them to show up or call? Well if you are with this person who is allergic to the word ‘sorry’ then stay away.

If however, they are always apologetic when they mess up and hasten to make it up to you and you find yourself feeling so guilty when you do something that you know would hurt them and also can’t wait to apologize and make it up to them, then you know you take each other’s feelings into consideration and your relationship will indeed last.

5. You talk about your past with a smile

Who you were or what you did in the past is something that a number of persons think is not necessary to talk about as the past is the past and it occurred before you met the person. While we are not saying talk about everything that you did wrong and are ashamed of, we do encourage opening up about your past as a way of the person not having any surprises down the road and knowing exactly what they are getting into. You can talk about (some) of your past relationships especially if kids are involved, talk about the hysterectomy you had, the medical procedure you had that now prevents you from doing deep-sea diving — things that could affect the relationship should you decide on doing the forever bit.

If you open up about your past and find that you are not judged for it, and they too feel comfortable doing the same, then that is a sure way to tell your relationship will last.

If You Apologise Sincerely When You Are Wrong Your Relationship Will Last

6. They don’t just hear, they listen to you

Most people will hear. But not everyone listens. In other words, someone can hear the words coming from your mouth but they haven’t absorbed, understand, appreciate, or accept what you are saying. Thus they don’t really get the meaning behind what you are saying and why it is being said. So if you are with someone you genuinely listen to what you are saying and respond in sincerity then you have a keeper. That is another sign your relationship will last.

Good communication is very important in every good and healthy relationship and if you both hear and listen to each other then you are on a good path.

7. Your values and morals are similar

They say opposites attract. That is true for many things but not necessarily in a long term relationship. In a relationship, you need to know that your values, principles, and morals are in sync with each other if you are to have a long and happy union. For example, what if the person you are dating believes that women should stay home and take care of the everyday running of the home, while you have your bachelors and want to head the legal department of one of the top law firms in the country? Or what if you believe in monogamy but he believes in polygamy? What if he believes you are unclean and should go into the basement for the five or seven days you are having your period, while you believe in snuggling up to have him rub your tummy? See where we are going with this? As a result, it is best your values and morals are similar in order to be in a lasting relationship.

A Sign of A Lasting Relationship is Having Similar Values And Morals

8. You don’t allow the sun to go down on your wrath

You are free to be mad with each other… ain’t nothing wrong with that at all! In fact, it’s expected. You are two people with different backgrounds getting to know each other and so there may be quarrels, even during the initial stage of your relationship, However, how you both handle this situation will determine if you will last. If one or both decides to not talk to the other for weeks or even months — to the point where you cannot even remember why you are upset with each other, to begin with, then you will not last. If on the other hand you spend time talking about the reason behind the anger and does not leave until you have come to an amicable decision then for sure you have what it takes to go the full length of the way.

9. You are willing to do new things together

A boring relationship is grounds for trouble. Many a couple have found themselves in the arms of someone else who gets them excited. They will tell you that heir partner was boring and didn’t want to try new things with them — and this has nothing to do with the bedroom.  But doing stuff together will make for an exciting relationship while also pushing the two of you so much closer. Doing things together that are new to both of you is also building memories that neither will be likely to forget anytime soon. Think sky diving, zip-lining, or Bungee jumping — things you never did before. Each time you think about it you will think of the person and may very well want to keep them around to share other special moments.

A Sign Of Lasting Relationship is Trying New Things Together

10. You respect each other

Another component of a good, lasting and loving relationship is respect. If your partner has a deep admiration for you based on your personality, your accomplishments, your values, and who you are in general, and you feel the very same towards them, then your relationship will last. If there is no respect, and they have low regard for you and your feelings then your future does not stand a chance. You should always strive to be with someone who builds you up emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. someone who thinks highly of your opinions regarding decisions, and someone who will be proud of you and what you care about. If you are both theses things towards the other then your relationship will last for sure!

11. You are both willing to compromise

Every relationship requires compromise. No two people will ever be the same. No two people will always love the very same things all the time. And no two people will be in the same mood at the same time every day. As a result, there has to be understanding and compromise. You have to meet the other hallway when you do not agree on things. You have to be willing to sacrifice the remote every now and then  — just saying…

If you both learn the art of compromise from early in the relationship and put this into practice then your relationship will last. Lack of compromise leads to incessant arguments and of course anger and resentment. Things you can both do without.

A Sign of Lasting Relationship Is Compromise

12. Kind to each other

If you are kind to each other and do not have to be prompted by the other to do so then your relationship will last. Having a kind nature, being considerate and thoughtful of your partner are characters of a lasting relationship.

13. You Can Open Up Without Fear

If you are able to open up and be honest about your past, about your likes and dislikes, about your future, and even about your fiance without the fear that they will use this against you, then you are again on the right track. This, however, will come after you have learned to trust your partner and is comfortable with them.

 14. You make each other happy

Being happy in a relationship is very important. Being happy rids you of burdens, stress, and worry and affords you the opportunity to think with a clear head about you, the person you are with, and the relationship in general. If you make each other happy then the chances of breaking up are minimal and you are looking at a bright future where you both make each other laugh. Laughing is good medicine as it reduces the levels of stress hormones. Thus your relationship will last for as long as you both want it to.

A Sign Your Relationship Will Last Is If You Make Each Other Happy

15. You are sexually attracted to each other

Being sexually attracted to each other is another important ingredient in a long and lasting relationship. This is what will propel intimacy and the desire to be affectionate at all times. You will want to touch and be touched, you will naturally be walking and holding hands, cuddling up to watch a movie, or showing them off to your friends and family. It is all about physical attraction. The lack of sexual attraction has torn many relationships apart, thus being attracted will have the opposite result.

16. You put each other needs first

If you put your partner’s needs before your own and they in turn put your needs first, contrary to what some people think, it’s not called stupidity, it’s call selflessness. This shows that you are considerate of their needs and feelings and them being considerate of yours. Imagine if both do this self swapping, you will end up having a mutual balance and a long and lasting relationship.

A Sign Your Relationship Will Last Is Putting Each Others Needs First

17. You Trust Each Other

It cannot be stressed enough how important trust is in a relationship. Trust eliminates anxiety, suspicion, and sleepless nights. If you trust your partner this develops your love, your respect, your happiness and reduces the need to seek the missing component outside the relationship. Trust allows you to let your guard down and be yourself. It allows you to have confidence in your partner. When someone knows you have total trust in them they too will do all in their power to maintain that trust.

18. Both cannot see  yourself without each other

When you look into your imaginary crystal ball and into your future you still see the two of you together years down the line. You start planning for ‘us’ and not ‘me’. You cannot even stop yourself from planning what you will be getting them for their next birthday a year away, or even looking at houses for sale and seeing you both running around inside.

Please note, however, that relationships take effort, time, and nurturing and the more you both put in, the more you get out. A lasting relationship is a team effort.