Unfortunately, a lot of times when we find ourselves being ignored by someone we share a special bond with, we tend to look within and often end up self-blaming. Our minds are filled with all sorts of questions — what did I do wrong? Was I not good enough for him? Did I say something that offends him? and the list goes on. Sometimes we may even overthink and become depressed before we know the truth as to the why. But sometimes it is not about anything we did at all. Sometimes it’s all about them.
But why is he ignoring me all of a sudden? Here we will explore some of the reasons behind his action.
Reasons He May Be Ignoring You All of A Sudden!
It is Nothing Personal
So you think you have developed a special bond with him. You even spent quality time together a few days ago. But since then his texts are scant and now it has been a week and you have not heard a word from him. That is unusual since you both have been texting and talking up a storm just about every day since you met. Don’t take it personally, if it has only been a day then he is probably genuinely caught up with family stuff. Not hearing from him for a day is no indication that you are being ignored. It just means he has other stuff that he has to be balancing at the same time. Give it time. You will hear from him later or tomorrow. But if it has been a week… then it’s time to bring in the big guns — shoot him that text that you have been dying to send and ask ‘are you ok?’
Reasons He Ignores You All of A Sudden
Did I do something wrong?
This is one of the biggest questions that we ask ourselves when we start feeling ignored. Did I do something wrong? Usually, the answer is no. Usually, it is about them and whatever situation they may be going through or what emotional adventure they are undertaking at that moment. We find that nine times out of 10 when we finally brave it up to ask, the answer is something pointing towards them and their schedule. A schedule, that, unfortunately, did not include you. Thus, you feel better knowing you did not do anything wrong, but on the flip side, you feel that you were not important enough to have fit into that schedule. Just a text that would take less than a minute to type and then press send would have made a big difference to you. Right?!
He got busy putting out his fire!
Now that you have established that it was not something you did wrong then what was the reason he gave for ignoring you? Oh, yea, one of his family members got ill and had to be rushed to the hospital, or there was an accident involving a very close friend that he had to be by their side. Thus he was not deliberately ignoring you. He had legitimate reasons. The only problem in this situation, however, is finding, again… less than a minute to shoot you a text to say ‘sorry, I am going through some stuff. Will catch up with you as soon as I get a chance’. That would solve the problem of you feeling and thinking that you have been ignored. No matter how great a problem maybe for him, if you mean something to him, he will want to share it with you. And if you are not yet as close for him to share, then just a text to say he is caught up in some stuff and will be in touch soon would be appreciated. If his house is on fire and he has to put the flames out, as soon as the smoke clears if he is interested in you then you would get that text/call.
He Ignores You Because You Are Not His Type
You are not his type
So you spent some well-planned quality time together, but afterward, you waited by the phone to hear from him but didn’t. A day turned into two, two days turned into a week, now two weeks later you still haven’t heard a word from him. Now you are really wondering what went wrong, especially since you felt you were actually forming a bond. When you finally send him a text to ask how has he been, you get one back to say, “I’m Ok. I”ve just been so busy”. So busy he could not text you after two weeks? Heck, even Bill Clinton had time to Text Monica Lewinsky, and he ran an entire country!! She got so many texts she was able to write a whole book about it! Girl, if two weeks have passed and you have not heard from him, he ain’t interested. You may very well not be his type.
He doesn’t understand how women are wired
Every woman knows that if you spend quality time with a man you care so deeply about, that hearing from him soon after is expected! It’s a given! It makes you feel that he is actually into you without you pushing the relationship. Makes you feel that it is not a one-sided affair. If you know that, then you would also know that if you do not hear from him you begin to go through all sorts of emotions… emotions that may even end in anger when it’s going into three weeks and still not a word. But if a man understands a woman, he knows this! And so he would ensure that he stays in touch – even if not every day but soon after the hookup. So if he has ignored you for weeks he certainly doesn’t understand how women are wired and may not be mature enough to be in a relationship with you — despite his age. If he did it once and you explained the wiring to him, but he does the very same the next time around then he just does not care about you half as much as you do him.
He Ignores You Because He Doesnt Understand How Women Are Wired
He is not interested in you, sorry!
Some writings on the wall are as clear as day! We certainly don’t need a magnifying glass to decipher it. If you are the one always having to text to find out how he is doing, and he responds in a one-word text hours later, then goes dead silent for days, or weeks… until you reach out to him again… and the trend continues, then honey, he has zero interest in you. If he was, he would also be texting you to find out how you are doing and chit chat about whatever. If he doesn’t then he is not interested in you at all. Stop texting him and turn your attention somewhere else where it is reciprocated.
He’s consciously keeping away
He may be deliberately staying away because he realizes you are into him in an intimate way and that is the last thing he is looking for. So, to avoid hurting your feelings he has just decided to not text or call with the hope that you will not only get the message he is sending you but that you will get over whatever torch you may be carrying for him. Some men are better at actions than with words and unless confronted directly with the question, he will show you in his actions. So if he is not texting or calling you, and when you text he does not respond, the message is clear, he does not wish to be with you. leave him alone!
He is Consciously Keeping Away From You
You were way too easy!
You just met and you hopped into bed with him that same night or a few days later, then after that night of blissful surrender, he goes missing in action. You sit by the phone, not wanting to text because you do not want to appear pushy or needy. Or he may have told you that his kids live with him and they sometimes have his phone, so you cannot even text to say how wonderful the time spent together was. So you waited and you waited, and you waited some more and nothing. Then you begin to get upset — after all, how could you have slept with him and he didn’t have the decency to send even a ‘hi, hope you are doing well’ message. So you decide to text. His only response hours later was ‘who is this?’… Dang! You have already been deleted! He tasted the cookie and he sure didn’t like it! He was probably a player that you need not mope over anyway! maybe if you had spent more time getting to know him outside of the bedroom you wouldn’t have realized this.
He has found someone else
Maybe the signs were there and you just ignored them. We sometimes do that when we are blinded by love. But now that he is suddenly ignoring you, you cannot help but notice them. He is ignoring your text, calls, emails, not checking up on you on social media… this maybe because he has found someone else and does not want to face up to it with you. Thus he has chosen the easy way out. Ignoring you all of a sudden.
He is Ignoring You Because He Has Found Someone Else
Good Reasons Why He Maybe Ignoring You All Of A Sudden…hmmm
Ask Him directly
The number one rule in a relationship should really be when in doubt ask. Usually, we put ourselves through a lot of emotional rides wondering why? and how come? and what-ifs? When all we need to do to solve those world-changing questions is to simply ask. If you haven’t heard from him in days send him a text asking how he is doing. After they have responded and based on their response ask… How is it that I haven’t heard from you in days? They may very well lie because men seem to sometimes be afraid to tell the truth where emotions are concerned. But on the other hand, they may just tell you the truth and you have to accept it — irrespective of what it is. Now that you have asked you have no need to be torturing yourself with questions. He may very well have a good and acceptable reason for doing so.
He was busy planning a surprise for you
He knew he could not keep a secret and that if he answered your text or call he would end up spoiling that surprise dinner that he has been planning all day. So really, he was not ignoring you. He was making big plans on how to spend even more time with you.
He Is Ignoring You Because His Phone Got stolen!
He was in a terrible accident/ Picked up by the police
Is it just me or do we women sometimes feel that being in an accident or being dragged off to jail is a good reason for them to not be answering or checking in with us? Because as far as we… I mean… as far as ‘I’ know… that is the only reason he could be ignoring me! Wait… I’m the only one that feels that way. Right?… my bad!
His phone got stolen
Definitely a good enough reason that he could be ignoring you all of a sudden. His phone got stolen. But couldn’t he call from his office phone, a payphone or borrowed his friends phone? Don’t push it… His phone got stolen!
He was in meetings all day re his exciting promotion
Congratulations!! Your man was locked in meetings all day and desperately wanted a break to call and let you know about the promotion he just got about heading the department. And of course, it comes with almost double the pay he is getting now! Exciting!! In fact, he just couldn’t wait for the day to end to tell you! Fact, he was in a meeting all day and didn’t get to reach out to you. That’s a good reason right? I think so.
He Ignores You Because He wanted To Give You Space
He feels he was too pushy and wanted to give you space to miss him
Awww!! He’s so thoughtful. He has been around so much that now he is suddenly ignoring you and when you ask he tells you the truth. He feels he was being too pushy and wanted to give you time to not only miss him but to feel the way he does about you. That’s understandable. Actually a good reason to be fair to him.