The reality of life is that some relationships will last forever. Some will last years. Others will last for months. Others even weeks. Unfortunately, there is no sure way to tell which category yours will fall in from the onset. If we could tell, then we would avoid goodbyes by not starting a relationship we know will only last for a short period of time, to begin with, if we were looking for something lasting.
But while you cannot tell for certain if your relationship will last, there are in fact signs you can look out for to tell that your partner is no longer into you. Identifying these signs can help you to either work on rebuilding your relationship or confirm to you that it is time to move on. One thing is for sure, life is too short to waste on someone who is not interested in you while you could be living your best life with someone else who thinks the world of you. ‘Cause that’s what you deserve!
There Are A Number Of Signs To Tell He Is No Longer Into You
So what are some of the signs that your man has lost interest in you?
1. He doesn’t want to spend time alone with you anymore.
Once upon a time, he could not wait to be with you. It was as if you were at the center of his world and you felt so special because he always wanted to be you. He was always asking you out on dates, coming over for dinner, hanging with you and your friends, he was like your second skin and you absolutely loved it! Now, he doesn’t ask you out anymore and whenever you invite him to hang, there is always something going on with him. Not only that but if he agrees he never shows and never bothered to call or text to apologize. This is a sure sign he has lost interest in you and may very well be spending that quality time with someone else.
2. You hardly hear from him.
Over time you realize that you do not hear from him as you used to. Once you would hear from him countless times during a day and it was as if there were just not enough hours in the day to talk. You would talk about everything and you were both so excited. You could not wait to hear your phone buzz ’cause you knew it was him. Now you hear from him weeks at a time and even when you text he does not respond until days later telling you how busy he is. If he was still interested, he would certainly find the time!
He’s Not Into You If You Hardly Hear From Him
3. He has nothing nice to say about you.
Nothing you do seem to please him and he is always pointing out the negatives about you and the relationship. He fusses that you are too nagging when you ask how you haven’t heard from him in weeks and try to explain how this affects you. Instead of apologizing, he tells you that you just want to control his life. In fact, you argue more than you talk. And everything you say makes you out to be the bad guy. He has totally lost interest in you hon!
4. He doesn’t care if you are seeing someone else.
It was a bit flattering when he would ask why the guy at your office was texting your phone so often, or why you still had a picture of your ex on your phone. You would find his jealousy gratifying. Now he doesn’t seem to care who you are with or what you are doing with them. In fact, he is now encouraging you to go out with that same guy from your office that he feels has a big crush on you. If he was still attracted to you the last thing he would want is for you to be having fun with someone that he believes has the potential of getting intimate with you. If he shows no signs of jealousy then he is no longer that into you.
He Is Not Into You If He Is No longer Jealous
4. Intimacy is a thing of the past.
You once could not wait to be around each other. He would always be holding your hands, be touching you, and would kiss you on the lips each time he sees you or when he was leaving your side. Now, he seems distant and when you reach over to hold his hand when he is driving — as you both normally do, he gently pulls it away and keeps it on the steering wheel for the rest of the drive. Holding hands may seem like a very simple matter to a man, but a woman feels a deep sense of connection and protectiveness when her man holds her hand across the seats while driving. If he slowly begins to break out of this habit until he no longer cares to do so but would rather drive with his hand in his own lap, then this is a clear sign that he has either begun to take you for granted or he is no longer into you. If he no longer puts his hands on your thigh in the car and he no longer tells you how much he misses you and can’t wait to see you. For sure he is no longer into you!
He’s Not Into You If He Does Not Want To Be Intimate With You
5. He has 101 excuses for his distractions
He used to find excuses to see you — not that he needed any, you wanted to see him just as badly. Now he finds excuses not to see you, excuses not to call you, excuses why he did not respond to your text, excuses why he did not show up for your birthday, excuses why you should understand his position — there is always an excuse. In this case, you need no more excuses to stay in this relationship, he has already given you enough. And no matter how attached you may feel towards him, the fact is clear, he no longer feels any attachments towards you!
6. He only comes over when he has nothing else to do.
Lately, you realize that the ‘every now and then’ that he stops by he will tell you that it was because his meeting got canceled and he didn’t have anything else to do, or that his friend that he was supposed to hang with came down with the flu, or that the trip he was going on in the mountains with his friends rained out. Then you know for sure that you are nothing more than an afterthought. If you are in a relationship but finds that you do not take priority in their life but that they only fit you in when they have ‘nothing better to do’, then for sure they have lost interest. There is no attraction on their part.
He’s No Longer Into You If You Are His Backup Plan
7. Sleeps with his back to you.
You are a couple living together and would find it one of the most romantic moments to fall asleep in his arms. Even when you try to pull away he would pull you back in. Now he sleeps with his back to you and tells you his arm gets cramped from you sleeping on it, or that the night is too hot, or that he cannot take your breath in his face, or even that he is not aware he pulls away. If this is the case then chances are he is no longer thinking ‘us’ but is now on the ‘me’ path. Why? Because he is not that into you anymore.
8. He Doesn’t help with chores anymore.
Helping out around the house is something he would do without being asked because he wanted to make you happy and gives you more time to spend with him. He was a firm believer that a happy wife made for a happy life. Now he couldn’t care less if you are happy or not. In fact, he would take great pleasure in helping you as he would take the opportunity to touch you on your butt every chance he got while in the kitchen. Or shared some raunchy jokes about your short shorts and how you were looking so hot he could cook the food on you instead of the stove. Now, not only does he not spend time helping you but he no longer notices that your short shorts have got even shorter. While this is not the biggest deciding factor on his loss of interestest, it is a sure sign you do not tickle his fancy and piqued his interest as you used to.
He’s Not Into You If He Doesn’t Help With Chores Anymore
9. He doesn’t compliment you.
He was your biggest supporter and would not fail to notice how wonderful you looked each time you put on something sexy just for him, or a head turner when you were dressed for your dinner date out. He never misses each time you changed your hair or had a new design on your nails. Now, no matter what you put on, or how expensive a hairstyle you rock you may as well be bald for all he cares. Honey, he is no longer attracted to you.
10. You no longer has access to his phone
You promised each other that there would be no secrets between you and that you have nothing to hide from each other, as a result, it was no problem sharing each other’s phone password or even sharing each other’s phone. Now he gets mad if you even pick up his phone to dust the table! This is definitely a telltale sign he is no longer into you. We won’t even get into the fact that if this is something you both decided would not be a problem in your relationship but now he suddenly changes his password and ensures it is one you do not have, then this is cause for an even bigger concern. It may be more than just losing interest in you, it may be that he has gained interest in someone else and doesn’t want you to find out.
He’s No Longer Into You If He Doesn’t Compliment You Anymore
11. He sits on the other end of the sofa when you are watching a movie together.
Watching a movie together was something you both looked forward to on weekends, as that was the time you brought out the popcorn and drinks and cuddled together on the sofa enjoying a show you didn’t even remember the name of after it had ended. The entertainment was being alone with him and just enjoying the moment. Now he sits on the opposite side to the sofa, phone in hand and texting while the movie is going on. It is no longer a thing for him. While the movie may no longer be a thing for him, neither are you.
12. He spends more time away from home than being there.
He is getting home from work later and later with no reasonable excuse. Then on weekends or days off he always has some errands to run on the road – alone. It certainly seems he is not interested in being around you nor spending time with you. A clear indication that he is no longer into you.
He’s No Longer Into You If He Spends More Time Away From Home
He No longer teases or jokes with you.
It would seem your beau has changed completely. He no longer teases you about the way you pronounced words or even the little things that you do that would once crack him up. Now he seems unapproachable and distant and you never see what his teeth look like anymore. When you ask if everything is ok it threatens to turn into a heated argument and so you have grown to leave it alone. If there is no underlying factor — like he is stressed over his job, money, health issues, etc, then it could be that he is no longer into you and is not interested in sharing special moments with you anymore.