Is Your Ex In a Rebound Relationship? Learn the Truth Today!

After a breakup, a number of persons either from fear of being alone or not wanting to come to terms with their new status, or even just wanting to prove to the other party that they can do better without them hop right into another relationship without giving themselves time to heal.

This is known as a rebound relationship and is entered into to fill the void that is left after a breakup. This helps persons to continue experiencing that sense of belonging, security, and intimacy. However, psychologists warn against this type of union as it can cause more harm than good to both parties involved. A rebound relationship is entered into to cover up the real pain from the separation, and like a drug, it is a quick fix that masks the underlying issues. Thus, rebound relationships do not usually last.

On the flip side, it can be good for you if your ex enters into another relationship soon after – even though it may be torture on your self-esteem as you feel you couldn’t have meant that much to them if you were replaced so quickly!

But, them being with someone else can prove to be a source of blessing for you as sometimes in the process of dating someone else is when your ex realizes that they want to be with you and only you. They will make comparisons and realize that you are who they truly want in their life.

If they are in a rebound relationship this usually means they are not committed to it and maybe doing it to pass the time or in many cases to make you jealous. Thus, there is a window of opportunity open to you to dive in and reclaim the love of your life – should this be your heart’s desire.

So how can you tell that he or she is in a rebound relationship?

5. They got involved too quickly. A rebound relationship usually happens shortly after a breakup – weeks or even days after, which means there was no time for your ex to mourn the separation. No healthy functional relationship survives on baggage and if there was no healing there will be baggage going into that union that can result in that relationship going south shortly afterward.
6. They show interest in wanting to get back with you. Despite the new eye candy in their life, they make it clear that should you make a move they would get back with you. Even the simplest gesture of them asking you out for coffee or an afternoon drink means they are still interested. If you ask them out and they readily accept it means they want to spend time with you and not their newfound interest.
7. Asking friends and family how you are coping. Showing interest in your wellbeing while being involved with someone else is a sure sign that there is still a high level of interest towards you and that they are not as consumed with their new relationship as it may seem on the surface. Otherwise, they wouldn’t care less if you are alive or dead!
8. Sending random text messages. If your ex sends you random text messages stating they are missing you or letting you know what they are doing at particular times of the day or night, again shows you are foremost in their thoughts, not their new spark. Definitely a rebound!
9. They are flaunting the relationship in your face. In a rebound relationship, your ex will want you to think that they have ‘moved on’ and that they are better without you. Thus, they feel the need to post pictures of the two of them on their WhatsApp status and all over social media or go out of their way to be seen together by you. This is an attempt to make you so crazy jealous that you will reach out to them to say you want them back. In a non-rebound relationship, no extra effort needs to be made as both parties are too busy being lost in each other’s company to think much about getting back at their ex.
10. The relationship ended just as quickly as it began. Usually, a rebound relationship begins very shortly after a break and will end just as quickly for whatever reason. Your ex may have begun to genuinely heal and feels they no longer need another person to hide behind, or it went sour because the new partner could not handle the baggage that comes with being used as a ‘rebounder’.

But what if your ex has really moved on, how can you tell?

1. You tried for months after your breakup to get back together but failed. If after your breakup you did all you could to get back together – asked to have a sit down to discuss what went wrong; apologized, even though you were not the one who called off the relationship nor the one caught cheating; told them you wanted to give it a second shot; took them out a few times, etc. and they still insist they didn’t want to be with you, then it may be that the new relationship is the real deal. Thus, the reason it is so important to stay away after a breakup and give your ex a chance to miss you and reminisce on what was and what could have been with you. Being too available can make them mentally be in a relationship with you while throwing their net in deep seas. A larger fish may have bitten and that was not you.

2. The longer they wait to get involved with someone else the more real it is. If your ex waits months or even years before starting a new relationship, then your window of opportunity has passed, and she has consciously moved on. You should do the same and leave her to live her life as her broken heart would have been mended.

3. They tell you they are seeing someone else and even thinking of getting engaged. After months of being separated, you and your ex have been on talking terms and holding civil conversations, even becoming social friends in the process, then one day they tell you that they have found someone new and may even be thinking of getting engaged! Believe it – they have really moved on. This means they have spent time with their newfound attraction and have been so intimate that talks of marriage have come into play. The relationship is definitely serious. The fact that they share this information with you means that they respect you, and don’t want you to be hurt. Don’t mistake this however for them still being in love with you and just doing it to get back at you – even if you were the cause of the breakup.

4. They took their new love to meet their parents:  Taking someone you are seeing to meet the parents is usually the final step in announcing that they are truly serious. If your ex takes their new love to meet their parents this is a sure sign you no longer stand a chance. It is time fo you to move on.

5. They moved in together: No matter how much someone wants to make you jealous, they will not move in their new partner if they were not serious about the relationship. If your ex has done this then for sure he is serious about moving on.

6. She’s having his baby: Wow! You talked about marrying and starting a family together. something you were both excited about, especially since he loves kids so much. In fact, he already had the names picked out for his son and his daughter. Then suddenly you ran into his new love and she is pregnant! Nothing can be clearer than this that he is indeed serious about her and your life with him was just a dream. It is time for you to start looking for someone else to be the father of your kids!

Your Ex is In a Rebound Relationship

BUT, if none of the six reasons above applies then…

Yeah! It’s just a rebound! Now what?

If you have established that your ex is not serious about their present relationship, it is time to start looking your hottest and ‘accidentally’ invade their space any chance you get. Just remember to make yourself ‘unavailable’ and have them wanting YOU back!

Remember too, if you try to push them to choose you or try to push out their new attraction, you are the one who will be left behind. For more on how to win your ex back visit our blog on How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back and Keep Her! – Epic Guide or How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back – A Step By Step Guide.